I mentioned in this post that I wanted to write about friendship and what it means to me.
It means different things to different people.
I am definitely a low-maintenance friend. The kind of person that will always be your friend, even if we don’t speak all the time. You might not have spoken to me for two months or two years but I’ll always be there for you and have you in my thoughts. I still care about people that I haven’t seen or spoken to in years. I still want the best for them and love seeing them happy.
Some people are different in how they see and value friendship. Some have to be in contact really regularly otherwise feel like you don’t value their friendship as much. I’m crap at always texting back quickly so can understand how this can get annoying.
We’re all different and I guess it’s down to us to understand that people consider many things to be important in friendships.
I think I’m the way I am because of how much I have moved and how often friends I grew up with moved. I’ve had best friends who have moved to the other side of the world and I still value their friendship and love them as much as I did when we lived close to each other. Where I’m from originally, people went all over the place for Uni and didn’t tend to stick to the same region. Because I’m used to coming, going and having friends all over the place; it makes it easier to get used to not seeing friends as often as I’d like.
I was also a bit of a ‘floater’ growing up… Hanging out with/being part of different groups all the time. Whilst it was a bit of a juggling act at times, I loved that weird freedom of not belonging all the time. It’s probably cause my interests and hobbies vary so much. It’s also probably an anxiety thing – when I was a lot younger, I oozed confidence at home and was constantly the bossy big sister who made my younger sisters star in my new movies about three sisters trying to find their way back to Moscow (still can’t believe I did a Chekhov before I knew what a Chekhov was?!). However when I started school, I was a nervous wreck and feared being alone. My mum always taught me to be friends with everyone and include everyone. I must’ve also made a pact with myself to be friends with everyone because that way, I would never be alone. Being a floater definitely changed the way I saw friendship.
I only spent a year in Sheffield before moving to drama school yet the friendships I made, I know will last and last because I may not see them for half a year (or even longer sometimes) but when I meet up with them, it’s as if I never left. I LOVE that. Those gals are also low-maintenance and that’s probably the secret to making the friendships work. The friendship hasn’t ever fizzle out just because I moved away. I still count Sheffield as my home because not only are my mum and sisters there but my friends are too.
After drama school, most of all have moved either temporarily like I or for the foreseeable and knowing that I’m just a train ride away from my class mates just makes me more excited because it means I have more places to go to. Not forgetting all of Alex’s friends who are some of the loveliest people I have ever met.
As long as we’re there for each other, support each other and make plans when we’re free then that’s all I need.